He followed me off the train: Why we need to talk about street harassment
Street harassment isn’t just “one of those things” women deal with — it’s something that chips away at your confidence, freedom, and sense of safety.
In this episode, Julie shares her own story, as she and Dene open up a raw and honest conversation about how we can take our power back.
Episode 7 - Self Defence for Women Podcast
In this episode, Julie Waite and Dene Josham explore the all-too-common reality of street harassment — what it looks like, how it makes women feel, and what we can do to feel more in control when it happens
Julie shares her personal experiences, from being harassed as a schoolgirl to frightening incidents on public transport.
Dene also reflects on how men can step up as allies and how society often underestimates the impact of this behaviour.
This conversation is full of practical wisdom, but more than anything, it’s a reminder that you’re not alone, and it’s never your fault.
WHY WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT STREET HARASSMENT
Street harassment affects 8 in 10 women, and it’s not about attraction or compliments — it’s about power, control and intimidation.
Whether it’s a stranger blocking your path, making comments, following you, or taking photos without consent — it leaves you feeling vulnerable, sometimes even afraid to go out alone.
Many women end up changing their routes, clothing, or routines just to avoid it.
But you shouldn’t have to.
Talking about this stuff matters — not just so we can protect ourselves, but so we can challenge the idea that it’s normal or “not a big deal.”
JULIE'S STORY
Julie opens up about some deeply personal memories — including the time she was followed off a train and touched inappropriately by a stranger in public. Her honesty makes space for all the women who’ve experienced something similar and perhaps haven’t felt able to speak up.
IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU - IT'S ABOUT THEM
One of the most important messages in this episode is that you are not to blame.
Not for what you were wearing, where you were, or how you looked.
The responsibility always lies with the person choosing to harass. And while it's frustrating that we even have to prepare for this, knowing your options — and what helps you feel confident and safe — can make all the difference.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Why street harassment happens (hint: it’s not about attraction)
The emotional impact it has on women over time
The many different forms it can take — from “minor” comments to serious intimidation
Why talking about it helps others feel less alone
Simple ways to stay safer, set boundaries, or get help when you need it
How bystanders can help make public spaces safer for everyone
Key Takeaways from This Episode
Listeners will gain insights into:
Street harassment is about power, not attraction
It can affect mental health and your day-to-day freedom
You’re allowed to respond however feels right for you
You don’t owe anyone politeness if you feel unsafe
It’s not your job to educate harassers — just to get away safely
Sharing your story can empower others to do the same
RECLAIM YOUR SPACE AND YOUR VOICE
By the end of this episode, you’ll feel more aware, less alone, and better equipped with ideas for handling difficult situations.
These conversations matter — and they’re a step toward feeling more confident and in control, one moment at a time.
Listen now and take what you need.
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